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Janelle Capra at the 2019 Beautiful Bakersfield Awards
July has me thinking about the Katy Perry song, “Firework.” You know the lyrics where she sings:
“Do you ever feel already buried deep?
Six feet under screams
And no one seems to hear a thing
Do you know there’s still a chance for you?
‘Cause there’s a spark in you
You just gotta ignite the light
And let it shine”
Ever feel like that? I know I have. Sometimes the blessings of motherhood can feel like burdens, buried deep, where no one else can see us, hear us or more than anything, understand us. And, if this resonates with you, I want you to know the most important thing about this journey…
You are not alone.
No matter what trial you are currently facing, what battle you are up against, what mountain you need to move, I’m living proof that you will get through it! You will. Just remember “there’s a spark in you” for a reason!
I recently had a “firework” moment where I was honored and humbled to accept the Beautiful Bakersfield Award for Humanitarian, Individual for charity work I had done in 2018. It was surreal to hear my name called in a category of amazing humans doing awesome work to make Bakersfield beautiful. I remember thinking as I took the stage (all of the bright lights on me) that I was up here in my shining moment because I made a conscious choice to change my mindset. I chose to “lose myself in service to others” during a year where I felt lost, hopeless, and at times, invisible. I was 8 years into my mom’s Alzheimer’s journey, and I had finally come to the place of acceptance. I came to the realization that there was absolutely nothing I could do to slow the progression of my mom’s dementia, nothing. But, what I could do is make a conscious choice to show up, step up and speak up for charities closest to my heart.
By choosing service above self, I was able to help several non-profits raise much-needed funds, and, in turn, it helped to heal my broken heart and give me a new sense of purpose.
If you, too, are in the midst of a battle, the best advice that I can give you is to tether yourself to something, anything. Find a reason to smile, to laugh, and give yourself some grace. As the saying goes, maybe you were given this mountain to show others that it can be moved.
Try something new to shake up your mindset and re-ignite the spark in you. Maybe sign up for a ballet class or a paint night (there’s something very cathartic about a paint brush and canvas, especially if it’s with a glass of wine!) or maybe it’s taking a walk outside, barefoot on the grass? (This really works, there’s science behind the energy in the grass and the connection to your body). Whatever path you choose, remember, it is a choice. You have the power to change your mindset over the situation that may seem hopeless. You can be your own hero!
“You just gotta ignite the light”. Yes, Mama, this! In the challenging times when you can barely get out of bed in morning, the greatest gift you can give yourself and others is to--serve. Seek the light in the midst of the dark times. Be the light to others on their journey and in return you will find your way forward and find your own firework!
“Come on, let your colors burst
Make ‘em go ah, ah, ah
You’re gonna leave ‘em all in awe, awe, awe”